Community Guidelines

Be honest about who you are

Use your own photos, recent enough that someone meeting you would recognise you. Give your real age. If you are in an open or polyamorous relationship, say so rather than letting someone find out three dates in. Bindr is label-free, so you never owe anyone a category for yourself — but that is not licence to mislead people about your age, your face or your availability.

Consent is not optional

Consent applies to conversation, not just to what happens offline. Matching with you is not consent to explicit messages, and friendliness is not consent to keep going once someone goes quiet.

• Ask before you send anything sexual, in words or in pictures.
• A no is a full answer. Do not negotiate with it, and do not ask again later.
• Silence is a no. Unmatching is a no. Do not make a new account to get round it.
• Consent can be withdrawn at any point, including mid-conversation.

No harassment, hate speech or slurs

No threats, no abuse, no following someone around the app after they have made it clear they are done. Nothing attacking people over race, ethnicity, religion, disability, sexuality, gender identity, immigration status or body. Slurs are not allowed, whatever the intent. Rejection is part of dating and never a reason to send an abusive message.

Biphobia

Bisexual people are a large part of this community and take a specific kind of abuse here. Telling someone they are confused, greedy or just not out yet is not a preference, it is an insult, and assuming a bi person is more likely to cheat is a stereotype with nothing behind it. Decline anyone for any reason you like — you cannot lecture them about their identity.

Transphobia

Trans and non-binary members belong here as themselves. Do not question someone's gender, interrogate them about their body or medical history, or demand proof of anything. Deadnaming and deliberate misgendering are harassment. Deciding someone is not the right match is fine; telling them why you think they are not really their gender is not.

Fetishisation

Treating a person as a box to tick is the complaint we hear most, and bi, trans and non-binary members hear it most often. Opening with a threesome request, messaging a bi woman for a couple who was never mentioned, calling someone exotic, asking a trans person about their body before their name — none of it is welcome. If your opening line would work equally well on anyone with the same identity, it is the wrong line.

Respect pronouns

If someone lists pronouns, use them. If they have not, ask or write around it. Getting it wrong once and correcting yourself is nothing. Being told and carrying on anyway is a choice, and we act on it.

No unsolicited explicit images

Do not send explicit photos to someone who has not asked for them. Not as an opener, not as a follow-up, not as a joke. It is the most reported behaviour on dating apps. If someone sends you one, report it.

No minors. Ever.

Bindr is 18 and over. There is no grey area and no nearly-18 exception.

• If you think a member is under 18, report the profile and stop messaging them. Do not confront them or try to check for yourself.
• If someone tells you they are under 18, or a photo makes you wonder, report it — you do not need to be certain. We would rather review a report that turns out to be wrong.
• Sexual content involving a minor is reported to law enforcement and the account removed immediately and permanently.

Reports about suspected minors go to the front of the queue. Use the report option on the profile or in the chat, or email support@bindr.dating.

No solicitation, scams or asking for money

Bindr is not a marketplace: no advertising, no promoting other accounts, no recruiting, no escort or sex work solicitation. Never send money to someone you met here — nobody genuine asks for a bank transfer, gift cards or crypto, and anyone pushing you off the app within a few messages is usually working the same angle. Report it.

Do not out people. Do not screenshot private conversations.

Plenty of members are not out to their family, workplace or community. Being outed can cost someone a job, a home or their safety.

• Do not tell anyone a member is on Bindr, or pass their profile around.
• Do not screenshot private conversations or photos to post elsewhere. What someone sent you was sent to you, not to your group chat.
• Do not share another member's name, workplace, address or social accounts.
• Do not threaten to out someone. That is blackmail, and we report it.

The exception is reporting: keeping a screenshot as evidence for us is right.

Reporting

Every profile and conversation has a report option, and reports are private — the person you report is never told who reported them. Blocking stops someone contacting you; reporting is what gets them looked at, so do both. In immediate danger, contact your local emergency services first.

What happens when someone breaks these rules

We look at the report, the account and the context. What follows depends on what happened and whether it has happened before.

• A warning. For a first, less serious issue — a rude message, a profile that breaks a rule. Most accounts that get one never get another.
• A suspension. Your account is locked, or a feature restricted, while we look into it. For repeat issues, or a first offence too serious to warn over.
• A permanent ban. The account is removed and you may not create another. We go straight here for anything involving a minor, credible threats, sexual content sent without consent, blackmail, fraud, or a pattern of harassment.

Serious cases skip the ladder, and we report to the police or the relevant authority where the law requires it.

If we get it wrong

Moderation involves judgement and we will not get every call right. If you think a decision about your account was a mistake, reply to the notice we sent or email support@bindr.dating and tell us what we missed. A real person will read it. [APPEAL ROUTE AND RESPONSE TIME — confirm against the live product before publication.]

These rules exist for the few who need them. Look out for each other.